I'm Chelsea, and my journey through the maze of complex relationships has been anything but straightforward.
Back in 2013, I was a 21-year-old newlywed with a heart full of grief for my brother and a head full of rigid beliefs about how life should unfold.
From bearing the scarlet letter to becoming the relationship guide
My job had me jet-setting around the world, but instead of feeling on top of the world, I felt increasingly disconnected from my life and myself. Then, plot twist: I met a colleague who saw me in a way that both thrilled and terrified me. Our connection deepened, shaking the foundations of everything I thought I knew about love and relationships.
In a whirlwind three months, we both made the decision to leave our marriages. It was a time of intense emotions and profound growth – think less 'Eat, Pray, Love' and more 'Chaos, Cry, Learn'. Today, we're married with three children, and I've built a business dedicated to helping others navigate their own relationship labyrinths.
This journey, while far from easy, has given me a unique perspective on the intricacies of relationships and personal growth. It's taught me the value of self-reflection, the power of empathy, and the courage it takes to live authentically.
Why? Because every messy, painful, exhilarating step led me here. To a place where I can look in the mirror and actually like the woman staring back at me. To a life where I'm not shrinking myself to fit into someone else's idea of who I should be.
And now? I'm here for you. Whether you're the other woman, the wife, or somewhere in that messy middle, I get it. I've been there. I've felt the guilt, the excitement, the paralyzing fear of "What the hell am I doing? And why am I doing it?"
I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to help you figure out what YOU want to do. To help you find your voice in the chaos. To remind you that you're not alone, you're not crazy, and you're definitely not beyond redemption.
I thought I had life all mapped out. Spoiler alert: I didn't.
So, if you're ready to get real, to dig deep, to laugh, cry, and maybe swear a little (or a lot), and to come out the other side unapologetically you.
You're in the right place. Let's turn your mess into your masterpiece, shall we?
REAL TALK
REAL GROWTH
REAL YOU
Here's the deal: We believe in keeping it real. Our approach is built on some fundamental truths we've learned along the way:
We see every complex relationship situation as an opportunity for self-discovery.
Think of it as emotional excavation - digging through the layers to uncover your true self. We're not here to judge your story; we're here to help you understand it and write the next chapters.
Our goal isn't to hand you a one-size-fits-all solution or make your decisions for you. That's your super power. We're here to be your relationship sherpas, guiding you to a deeper understanding of yourself and your needs. We believe that by fostering self-awareness and personal growth, you'll be equipped to navigate even the stormiest seas with greater clarity and confidence.
Remember, we're not aiming for perfection here. We're aiming for authenticity, growth, and relationships that reflect deep connection, interdependence & acceptance - beautiful imperfections and all.
Every experience, even the ones that make you want to hide under the covers, has the potential for growth. (Silver linings are real, folks!)
EXPERIENCES ARE VALUABLE
Your well-being and self-discovery aren't just important - they're non-negotiable in any healthy relationship.
YOU FIRST, ALWAYS
Society's relationship rulebook? It doesn’t exist. Your unique experiences often color outside the lines.
COLOR OUTSIDE THE LINES
Growth isn't always comfortable, but it’s essential to becoming your ideal self. (new shoes aren’t comfortable either, until you break them in, but you break them in anyway, right?).
GROWTH IS ESSENTIAL
Your personal truth is just that - personal. It's as unique as your fingerprint and just as valuable.
YOUR STORY MATTERS
our approach
OUR MISSION
At TOW & TW / TOM & TM, we're on a mission to flip the script on how we talk about and navigate complex relationships. We're creating a space where the complexities of love are not just accepted, but understood as a catalyst for personal growth. Our goal? To transform those moments society whispers about into opportunities for profound self-discovery and authentic living.
We offer understanding without conditions or judgments. Your story is valid, period.
Compassion Without Fine Print
We believe in the power of truth-telling, even when it's uncomfortable. Growth happens outside the comfort zone, after all.
RADICAL HONESTY
We're committed to facilitating personal development, especially during those challenging times when it feels like the rug's been pulled out from under you.
Embracing the Growing Pains
We encourage a critical eye towards societal expectations. Who wrote the rulebook on relationships anyway?
Questioning the 'Shoulds'
We're fostering a community where you can find acceptance, understanding, and maybe even a few 'me too!' moments.
BUILDINg your circle
Here's what we're all about:
turning taboos into truth
Remember, we're not here to condone or condemn. We're here to understand, to support, and to help you navigate your relationships with more clarity and awareness of - yourself and those you love.
