Think of our coaching as your personal relationship GPS - we can't drive the car for you, but we can certainly help you avoid the potholes and find the scenic routes. We're here to support your journey of self-discovery and growth, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

PERSONALIZED
COACHING

your guide through relationship complexities

No judgment,
no cookie-cutter advice -
just real talk and tailored strategies to help you write your own love story.

We offer compassionate guidance (without the fluff), practical strategies (that actually work in real life), and insightful tools to help you make decisions that feel true to you. Whether you're navigating the choppy waters after an affair, questioning if you're on the right relationship ship, or working to rebuild the bridge of trust, we're here to be your steady support.

Chelsea

Chelsea's relationship resume reads like a best-selling novel - complete with plot twists, character growth, and a hard-earned happy ending. From her time as "the other woman" to her current chapter as a fulfilled wife and mother, Chelsea's journey gives her a 360-degree view of complex relationships. She blends been-there-done-that empathy with no-nonsense practical advice to help you write your own love story - messy drafts and all.

Founder & PRIMARY COACH

Luke

I’m Luke Shillings, a relationship coach with a unique focus on infidelity recovery. I’ve walked the difficult path many of you may be facing, either as someone who’s struggled with fidelity or as a partner seeking to make sense of it all. My own journey has taught me that the pain, guilt, and confusion that come with betrayal don’t have to define who we are. We can, if we choose, use these challenges as powerful catalysts for growth and change.

Infidelity Recovery Coach

Julie

As Chief Officer of Knowledge at TOW&TW, Julie spearheads thought leadership initiatives focused on coaching, courses and the community. With a deep commitment to helping individuals reach their full potential, Julie drives the development of innovative strategies and programs that inspire transformative change. With over 20 years of experience in the deep connections and emotions that play into infidelity from both sides, Julie provides a unique perspective as a thought leader & coaching consultant, helping women navigate the complexities of their relationships with empathy and honesty. 

Infidelity Recovery Coach

Trina

Trina is a very passionate and driven member of the TOW&TW team specializing in helping couples who are navigating the complexities of relationships formed from affairs. With over two decades of experience in management, finance, and human resources, she brings a unique blend of strategic thinking, financial acumen, and deep understanding of human behavior to her practice. 

Infidelity Recovery Coach

COACHES

Your Guides in Self-Discovery & Growth

Select Your Personalized Coaching Experience

Emergency Call

Because love doesn't always wait for office hours. When you're in the middle of a relationship earthquake, our emergency support swoops in with expert guidance within 24 hours. Think of it as your emotional first aid kit.

coaching packages START as low as $800

Urgent support for critical moments

Single Session

Not ready to dive into the deep end? No problem. This one-time session lets you address your burning questions or get a feel for our coaching style. It's like a first date with your future self - no commitment required, but who knows? You might just fall in love with the process.

Dip your toe in

Four Sessions

Ready to go beyond the surface? This four-week journey is your ticket to some serious self-discovery. We'll tackle those persistent issues and start rewriting your personal story. Think of it as a month-long masterclass in being unapologetically you.

DIVE DEEPER

Eight Sessions

This is for the overachievers, the all-in types, the "go big or go home" crowd. Eight sessions over two months to dig deep, challenge everything you thought you knew about yourself and relationships, and emerge with a brand new perspective.

Comprehensive transformation

**Warning: Side effects may include increased self-awareness, healthier relationships, and a stronger sense of self.

The VIP Experience

For those who want the whole enchilada. Choose from 3-month or 6-month packages for continuous, comprehensive support. Because real, lasting change doesn't happen overnight, and we're here for the long haul. Think of it as having a relationship expert in your pocket, ready to help you navigate whatever life throws your way.

Continuous Support for Sustainable Growth

Interested in coaching?

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LOVE
LETTERS

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Julie helped me navigate one of the most difficult transitions of my life with compassion and zero judgment.
She taught me to trust myself again and showed me how to move forward with dignity.
Kimberly R.
Chelsea offered something completely different - practical guidance grounded in real understanding of what I was going through.
This wasn't just about healing - it was about learning to trust myself and make conscious choices about my future. The community she's built has shown me I'm not alone, and that there's a way through this that honors both my truth & my humanity.

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Working with Trina transformed how I view relationships & self-worth.
She taught me that setting boundaries isn't selfish - it's essential for healthy connections with others.
ANN MARIE S.
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Through coaching with Luke, I learned to stop letting others' judgments define my choices.
He helped me find my voice and trust my own path forward.
AARON G
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READY TO WRITE YOUR NEXT CHAPTER?

What to expect on your journey

Remember, this journey is uniquely yours. We're here to guide, support, and occasionally give you a gentle push when you need it, but you're the hero of this story.

Getting To Know You

We'll sit down for an initial heart-to-heart, getting to know your unique story and what you're hoping to achieve. Think of it as a first date, but with less awkward small talk and more meaningful conversation.

STEP ONE

Designing a Plan For You

Together, we'll design a personalized strategy for your growth and healing. It's like planning a road trip, but instead of destinations, we're plotting milestones in your personal development.

STEP TWO

Diving Deeper

In our sessions, we'll explore your challenges, concerns, and dreams in a judgment-free zone. It's a safe space to let it all out - no topic is too taboo, no feeling too messy.

STEP THREE

Giving You The Tools

We'll equip you with practical strategies to navigate the choppy waters of complex emotions and relationship dynamics. Think of it as your emotional Swiss Army knife.

STEP FOUR

Cheering You On

Between sessions, you'll have access to resources and our supportive community. Because sometimes, you need a reminder of how far you've come and a little encouragement for the road ahead.

STEP FIVE

FAQs

Curious Minds WANT TO KNOW

Is coaching confidential?

As confidential as a secret diary with a really good lock. What's shared in our sessions stays between us. Your privacy isn't just important to us - it's non-negotiable.

How often do we meet?

It's like choosing your own adventure. Depending on the package you select and your personal needs, we can meet weekly, bi-weekly, or create a custom schedule that fits your life. We're flexible because we know life doesn't always stick to a 9-to-5 routine.

What if I'm not sure if I want to stay in my relationship or leave?

Ah, the classic "should I stay or should I go" dilemma. Here's the deal: we're not here to make that choice for you. Our job is to help you clear away the mental clutter so you can hear your own inner wisdom. We'll guide you towards clarity, but the final decision is all yours - because you're the expert on your own life.

I'm worried about being judged for my choices. Will you judge me?

Judge you? Not our style. We left our judge wigs and gavels at home. Our space is 100% judgment-free and 100% focused on understanding and growth. We're here to support you, not to play moral police. Your choices are yours to make - we're just here to help you understand them better.

Can coaching help if my partner doesn't know about the affair?

Short answer: Yes. Long answer: While we're big fans of honesty, we also know that real life is complicated. Every situation is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. We can help you navigate your emotions, explore your options, and make decisions that align with your values - all within the context of your specific circumstances. Our goal is to guide you towards your own truth, whatever that may look like.

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